Male vs female cats: Which is better?

Updated 20/12/24

When it comes to male vs female cats, what really sets them apart? And are male or female cats better? From personality to health and behavior, the differences might not be what you were expecting – read on as we bust some myths and uncover what really matters when choosing your purrfect purr pal.

Key takeaways

• Individual traits can trump gender stereotypes when deciding on a male cat or a female cat.
• Gender may not be the biggest factor to consider when choosing between a male or female cat.
• The decision to spay or neuter your cat may have the biggest impact on their personality and behavior.

Male vs female cats: Personality

When it comes to personality, the difference between male and female cats is a popular topic among feline fanatics. Here are the traits that might help you understand your feline friend a little better.

Affection and friendliness

Some studies suggest male cats may be snugglier than females, but this doesn’t tell the whole story – a cat’s breed, upbringing, and levels of socialization matter more than just their gender. For example, Ragdolls top the charts for affection and kittens are typically friendlier than older adult cats, while mogs who share their home with other feline friends tend to be more affectionate than those flying solo.

Aggression levels

It’s sometimes said that unspayed female cats are feistier than their male counterparts, particularly when in heat or protecting kittens. Equally, unneutered male cats are often labeled as territorial brawlers and thought to be more aggressive toward other furry friends.

However, research shows aggression has little to do with gender. Insead, other factors come into play: 

• Whether they’re spayed or neutered
• Living in a single or multi-cat household
• Breed, genetics, and age
• Early socialization (or lack thereof)
• Health conditions
• Environmental stimulation

On top of this, cats with negative early experiences or poor socialization are more likely to act out, regardless of gender.

Playfulness

Some pet parents find male mogs to be more energetic and playful, but in reality, both genders need plenty of stimulation to stay happy and healthy. If you’re looking for a laid-back lap cat, consider adopting a senior kitty instead of a high-energy kitten.

Forming bonds

Who’s more likely to be your best buddy – male vs female cats? Again, there really are no major differences between genders, instead, cats tend to grow closer to their humans as they age, especially in homes with multiple cats where they can learn to share affection. 

Territorial cat behavior

While unneutered male cats spray urine to mark their territory, females in heat may also claim their space by spraying or rubbing against objects. Choosing to spay or neuter your kitty is the best way to reduce these behaviors.

Time outdoors

Male moggies who haven’t been neutered tend to roam further in search of a mate, often spending more time outside than female felines. However, once a cat has been spayed or neutered, their outdoor adventures will be shaped more by life experiences than gender.

Male cat vs female cat: Appearance 

Size and build

Male cats are often larger and more muscular than females of the same breed. However, size is more influenced by the breed itself rather than gender – think Maine Coons vs Siamese!

Facial features 

Intact male cats or those who’ve been neutered later in life tend to develop big, chubby cheeks. A female cat, on the other hand, usually has a slimmer, more delicate head shape with a softer jawline.

Coat colors 

Female felines often sport more intricate coat patterns than males, thanks to the “X” chromosome. Since females have two “X” chromosomes (XX) and males have one (XY), females are more likely to display patterns such as tortoiseshell or calico, whereas males are often one solid color.

Male vs female cats: Health

Neutered or spayed cats tend to live healthier lives regardless of gender, as the surgery reduces the risks of several medical conditions. However, there are certain health issues more commonly associated with each gender.

Common health concerns in female cats

• Pyometra: A serious infection of the uterus.
• Mammary tumors: Seen in unspayed females.
• Uterine cysts and tumors: Can cause discomfort and health complications.
• False pregnancies: Hormonal changes mimicking pregnancy symptoms.

Common health concerns in male cats

• Urinary blockages: Caused by stones or swelling in the narrow urethra.
• Obesity: Male cats are slightly more prone to weight gain.
• Stud tail: A condition affecting the tail glands.
• Prostate and testicular cancer: Seen in intact male cats.

While female felines may outlive males by a couple of years on average, factors like breed, lifestyle, and overall health play a more significant role when it comes to lifespan.

Bringing a new cat into the mix

Already have a cat at home? When adding a new furry friend, consider how they’ll fit in with your current feline family member. Cats from the same litter often bond well, but if that’s not an option, think about matching personalities and energy levels.

Spayed or neutered cats are usually easier to integrate into multi-cat households as they’re less likely to engage in territorial disputes. To keep everyone happy, make sure each cat has their own essentials, including separate food dishes, litter boxes, and cozy spots for alone time.

Choosing the right cat for you

As you can see, gender is just one piece of the puzzle when picking the perfect feline companion. Other factors to consider include:

• Breed and genetics
• Early socialization
• Health history
• Cat personality traits
• Your lifestyle and preferences
• The environment the cat lives in

Tips for a happy, well-adjusted cat

• Avoid weaning kittens too early.
• Handle them regularly before 7 weeks old to encourage socialization.
• Expose them to other cats in their early months to help them learn social skills.
• Provide a loving home where they’re treated with care and compassion.

Whether you have a playful male or a more reserved female (or the other way round!), an in-home cat sitter ensures their unique needs are met while you’re away. From maintaining routines to understanding their personality quirks, your sitter will keep your feline friend happy, healthy, and stress-free at home.

Considerations for pet sitters

Here are a few things to keep in mind when caring for cats. 

• Get to know their personality: Stereotypically, male cats might be more playful or cuddly, while some female cats could be more reserved. Spend time observing their behavior to adapt your approach.
• Keep an eye out for aggression: Intact males might show territorial behavior, while unspayed females can be more defensive, especially if they’ve had kittens. Handle them gently and respect their boundaries.
• Provide plenty of stimulation and entertainment: Both male and female felines need toys and activities to stay entertained.
• Keep litter boxes clean: Males, especially unneutered ones, may spray to mark their territory. Keeping litter boxes clean and providing enough for all cats in the household can help minimize this behavior.
• Watch for symptoms of health problems: Male cats are more prone to urinary blockages, so monitor their litter box habits carefully. Female cats may be at risk for mammary tumors if unspayed – report any unusual lumps to the pet parents.
• Give them space: Ensure each cat has access to separate feeding areas, water bowls, and cozy spots to relax.
• Respect their routine: Furry friends thrive on consistency, so stick to their usual schedule for feeding, playtime, and rest.

Meet our veterinary expert, Emma

The above article has been checked by veterinarian Emma Chandley, BVetMed MRCVS PGCertSAS. Emma graduated from the Royal Vet College in London in 2011. She has a keen interest in surgery and went on to do a postgraduate certificate in small animal surgery and was then awarded advanced practitioner status in the same discipline.